How To Calm Concerns And Help Keep Them Safe
The novel Coronavirus COVID-19 has changed our lives, both for the short and long term. And right now, we’re at a critical point in the fight against the virus. The next few weeks will be stressful, and for children and teens, the stress can be particularly intense.
That’s because many of them haven’t weathered a national crisis before, so it’s all new to them. And with fewer outlets for exercise or interaction with peers who may have the same feelings, it can be overwhelming.
So, what can you do to help the young people in your life at this difficult time? Here are some simple things to consider. You have two over-arching goals: to inform them so they can manage the stress, and teach them how to keep themselves—and others—safe.
- Be Honest, Factual, And Hopeful. Explain the Coronavirus and the risk it creates in simple terms. It’s a new disease, and we’re still learning how to fight it. It will infect a lot of people and some will die. But most people who get it will recover, and the virus doesn’t affect young people as much as older people. Many young people may have the virus and not know it.
That’s why it’s important to stay away from other people right now: the virus may only make you a little sick. But you could unintentionally pass it on to someone who might get really sick. It’s everyone’s responsibility to keep the virus from spreading. - Teach The Simple Steps That Let Them Protect Themselves (And Get Some Control). Experts have provided recommendations on simple things that can be done to help stop the virus. Wash your hands frequently with soap, for at least 20 seconds. Avoid touching your face. Stay six feet away from other people outside your immediate family. Keep trips to the grocery store or other places with other people to a minimum. Wear a mask or face covering when you go out for extra protection (a new CDC recommendation). Knowing these things helps empower children—by showing them they can take some control over the situation.
- Explain The Crisis Will End. In The Meantime, Be Creative. We may still have to spend several weeks away from other people, which is especially tough on kids and teens. But explain that this is an opportunity to be creative—and find new ways to reach out. Online communications is certainly one way of doing this. But suggest other ways to share their feelings and concerns. A journal might be helpful for some. Art for others. Music for others. Challenge your young people to think of entirely new ways to entertain themselves, learn, and interact. This again puts control in their hands, and can help alleviate some of the pressure.
But still expect emotions to come out, because this is a trying time even for adults. If your young person is especially emotional about this challenge, or if they become withdrawn, contact your pediatrician. They know of available resources, most of which are provided services online.
Do what’s needed to keep your family safe. And let them know frequently that one day, this will be in the past.